Discover the Three Intimacies and How They Work Together So you’re truly over your divorce. You’ve fought the furies, you’ve escaped that feeling of being kept in limbo, you’ve learned to live alone, you have been through what we call Love Trauma. Now you’re ready for Beyond Love Trauma. In this new second book of Wagner’s Love Trauma series, he insists on the maxim “Know Thyself.” If you’re ready to move into a new relationship, this is your mantra. You can’t become the ultimate “catch” if you don’t know yourself. Perhaps the most useful part of Beyond Love Trauma is Wagner’s description of the three intimacies: • sexual, • intellectual, and • emotional. As Wagner argues, all three are necessary for a romance to achieve, finally, what he describes as the ultimate relationship, one of “erotic love.” To be afraid to be alone is not a good reason to marry. And marriage—or any romantic relationship—is not a place to think “What’s in it for me?” A committed marriage requires an attitude of “How can we pursue a long-term goal?” what Wagner calls a “life commitment.” From an in-depth discussion on places to meet others to attacking the “ideal” that divorcees set up for themselves, the second book takes a hard look at the ways in which men and women sabotage their efforts to “get back into the game.” He urges divorcees to take their time moving forward, establish trust and respect, before leaping into marriage or another relationship. Beyond Love Trauma is a book which will set you free to negotiate the effects of Love Trauma.